Hi lovelies,
Spring has sprung! There’s pollen in the air and the SuperYenta has been super busy. Take the snatches of sun as a hint: get out there and meet people. To celebrate, here’s a new feature that will appear on these pages from time to time: SuperYenta Q & A, in which real single people write in questions that I answer online.
So go on with your bad selves – get out there and roll around in the mud!
SuperYenta
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Dear SuperYenta,
I would like to try
internet dating, but my work is sensitive (I'm a professor) and I am not
comfortable putting my personal information and photo out into the ether. It
could be problematic for my clients/students. What do you suggest?
Signed,
Occupational Hazard
Dear OH,
Your SuperYenta is a huge fan of Internet dating, especially in the Jewish community. Jdate has become so de rigueur that even when two people meet in person and not online, they often ask, “What’s your Jdate profile name?” To that point, it would be good for your dating career to have an online profile.
I can think of two solutions to your question. Each one corresponds to a relative security level you need to feel comfortable about your identity.
1. Security level: medium risk.
Begin with a modified profile. Keep your essay answers to a minimum and cite the reason: “I’d love to say more but I need to keep my answers brief because I’m an educator.” Add one flattering photo of how you look in the classroom on a good day. Say a prayer to the classroom gods that your students aren’t searching for mates who are your age and hit the “submit” button.
2. Security level: no risk.
Go old school. Just because the rest of the modern universe is using the Internet for dating, doesn’t mean you have to. Your options include everything from working with a matchmaker, such as myself, or using old fashioned foot to the pavement methods, such as marketing. A great way to market your availability is by talking to people. And by people I mean everyone you come into contact with, from your Starbucks barista to your coworkers at school. You can tell each person just what you wrote to me: “I’m ready to meet someone but I can’t use online dating because of my job. Do you know anyone who is (insert your list of immutable attributes) for me?” You’ll be surprised at how many responses you get when you put your message out there.
So go for it! And don’t let your occupation slow you down.
Love,
SuperYenta
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