Regular readers know your SuperYenta thinks Rachel Greenwald is the best author about dating working today; she’s smart, doesn’t treat you like a retard, gives you the benefit of the doubt, and is on your side. Rachel’s first book, Find a Husband After 35 is my most recommended dating book—for both men and women.
Well, folks, she’s done it again. Rachel’s new book, Why He Didn’t Call You Back, is another intelligent, meaningful, uplifting (and funny) book on how to get dating right in the early stages. The book’s basic thesis is there are ten most common things women do on first and second dates that cause men not to call them back. The premise being that we all have dates we think are great and wait around for the phone to ring again and why didn’t he call me back?!!
These Top Ten are broken down into easily digestible episodes with catchy names, how to spot yourself in each pitfall, and what to do about it. No matter your dating history, I guarantee you’ll find yourself in at least one of the types. Are you a Blah? A Boss Lady? A Bitch in Boots? (I know, I know, some days, we’re a little of all of them)
Unlike some other (insulting) dating books, this book does not tell you to change yourself or put you in a position to feel uncomfortably not you on a date. It does give useful, actionable suggestions for accentuating certain attractive qualities about yourself and holding back on the skeletons in the closet stuff, like being obsessed with Diet Dr. Pepper or having unbendable rules about how you plan to raise the kids you don’t yet have.
Whatever type reflects you, Rachel’s humorous, endearing examples in each section offer gentle and realistic suggestions on how to keep the sharp edges and kooky revelations to yourselves until the time is right in a relationship…or at least until the third date.
Rachel uncovered the types by conducting over 1000 Exit Interviews with women’s former dates. The process was rigorous, analytical, and helpfully revelatory. It is also a new service offered by your SuperYenta. For more information, click here.
So where did the SuperYenta see herself? Oh my, in almost every type. After every chapter, I asked Mr. SuperYenta, “Was I a Psychobabbler? A Revealer?” But where I really saw myself was in the Sadie Hawkins. I followed up with men I was interested in before their car even drove away. It took me years to stop this bordering on stalker behavior. I was relieved to see I wasn’t alone: I was part of a sisterhood of this mistake! Here’s a key takeaway for my Sadie sisters out there: DO NOT TEXT men you like before the third date, EVER. Thank god texting wasn’t de rigueur when I was dating!
One small caveat to SuperYenta clients: I employ rules about first dates that are not part of Rachel’s research or book. Nonetheless, the dating information in Rachel’s book is so useful that I will recommend Why He Didn’t Call You Back along with Find a Husband to all my clients from here on out.
But enough about me; let’s talk about you getting a copy of Why He Didn’t Call You Back. To order yours, click here.
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